The Lie About Your Wedding Day

We buy into the notion that we must be at our best on our wedding day, spending…

▪️$1,100 for a dress - that is worn for 4 hours, max

▪️$700 for a cake - that our body converts to waste & eliminates

▪️$600 for bridal hair & makeup

...for a grand total avg of $33,900 for a 4-hour celebration (per the Knot in 2019).

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t mean to downplay the significance and joy of honoring a union.

My issue is: why are we convinced that our wedding day is THE most important day of our lives?

Because everyone we know will be there, watching us ‘get a husband,’ seeing us at our ‘most beautiful,’ and witnessing our fairytale moment.

It is the culmination of every story we read and watched as little girls.

All of our family and friends are with us that day, and then our lives are summarized into 3 words: Happily Ever After.

The reality of what comes after the princess day isn’t always glamorous. It isn’t as comfortable to support women through.

We desperately want to normalize what comes after, and to focus on actual life, right?

But doing so would mean that women would fight for more → longer maternity leave, more Doula support, better healthcare, and equal workplaces.

And that 👆🏼 would threaten our society.

You see, if we can brainwash women into believing that her wedding day is the pinnacle of life, she spends the rest of her life not realizing that her power comes later.

So yes, celebrate unions and love. AND, support 👏🏼 the 👏🏼 Mothers 👏🏼.

Normalize what comes after, the forgotten ‘big days.’

For it is these days when she steps into her power and makes real change in this world.